Today, we’re looking at How to Handle Self Doubt and Low Confidence! A couple weeks ago, I had the pleasure of doing makeup for Anne Fulenwilder. If you’re not familiar with the name, let me give you an intro: She is the Editor-in-Chief of Marie Claire Magazine!
She was in San Francisco for the “Power Trip,” a Summit she organized that brought 100 “Power Women” from NYC to SF to meet with 100 of the West Coast’s power women to empower each other, network, and enjoy eachother’s company.
Whenever I do makeup on a celebrity, I always take the time to look them up on Google, for a few reasons:
1. I want to know what they look like, and how they normally do their makeup (and hair, if I am on hair duty, too).
2. I like to know a fair amount about them… Since I am going to be up close and personal and in their face, I want to know what they are all about and have a few topics I can chat with them about!
So, when I was going to be working with Anne, here are a couple articles I read:
I also watched a couple videos on YouTube, like this one:
After this bit of research, I was definitely excited and impressed! I loved her “Dear Me” advice, and was excited to be around such a wonderful, powerful woman! It was extra exciting to me, because while I truly believe we can learn SOMETHING from EVERY SINGLE PERSON we meet, Anne is probably the celebrity I’ve worked with whose career is closest to where I’d love to end up, so I kind of wanted to kidnap her and ask her questions for three and a half weeks (but I didn’t).
Usually, the googling process makes me less nervous about what I am up for. It puts me at ease to sort of “get to know” the person I am going to be meeting. But this time?
This time, it made me NERVOUS!
Every article I read talked about how confident she is. As well she should be!
Additionally, think about it: She is the editor of an amazing BEAUTY magazine. Clearly, she is going to know her way around a makeup kit – and as she mentioned when I met her, Marie Claire has a whole makeup CLOSET!
I was fearful that she would think I was an impostor, even though I was booked based upon my portfolio – an example of my skills. What if she thought “Who is this chick? She doesn’t know what she’s doing, and she’s not using my favorite foundation (Face Fabric, by Armani, which is discontinued, in case you were wondering)!”
Well, she didn’t.
The night before I met her, I was talking to Tommy (aka crying in bed to Tommy – see this post) about my fears. I told him what I thought, and how I was thinking of asking her about what she felt about confidence.
He reassured me, and told me to maybe hold off on telling her I was worried she’d think I was a crap makeup artist until I was done (good idea, since I shouldn’t scare her, but I didn’t totally follow this advice)!
So, here’s what she said. I wanted to share it because if it was helpful to me, it is likely to be helpful to you!
1. We all feel self-conscious, and like we are impostors. Even men. Even her! She said that she has self-doubt multiple times a day, every single day!
2. Confidence is a choice! When we have these moments of self-doubt, we can either choose to let them overwhelm us, or rise above them!
I also asked her for her biggest tip for success, and she told me to stick to what I am passionate about, and enjoy the process, and success will come!
Please share this with someone who could use a pep talk!
What are some tips that you have used to help eliminate self-doubt?
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