Hello! I hope you are having a great week!
I wanted to share a conversation that I had with Tommy (my boyfriend) the other night!
I was having serious confidence issues the night before I did Anne Fulenwider (the editor in chief of Marie Claire magazine)’s makeup. Even though I was booked for the job because of my skill and portfolio, I still sometimes get scared that I am going to get to my booking and start working and the person is going to be like “Who let this chick in here? She doesn’t know what she’s doing!”
Fortunately, it happens less and less, but it still happens!
I finally called Tommy to bed, and when he got there and discovered my condition, he of course wanted to talk and help me out. He gave me so many encouraging words, and the exact pep talk I needed to be ready for my booking bright and early the next morning (thank Goodness)!
I am so blessed to be with someone who consistently makes sure that he is doing the best he can to make me feel cared for, confident, and supported, among other things like the way that he makes me laugh hysterically EVERY SINGLE DAY.
I am not writing this to make anyone feel bad – whether they are in a relationship, or otherwise.
I am not writing this to brag, either.
And last, but not least, I am not writing this because I want to make sure you know how hopelessly in love with each other we are (although we are).
Sometime in the past month or so, I read an article that seems to have vanished from the internet and whatever social media sites I shared it on (shameless plug time – see the bottom of this blog for the list of those I use!). The title was something like “Your boyfriend isn’t amazing because he does these 12 things” (the internet loves numbered lists these days.
The article made me really consider how my standards for a good partner have changed over time – specifically, how they’ve elevated.
I have learned that whatever treatment you expect and accept, you will get.
I used to get excited if a guy I was casually dating texted me back in a reasonable amount of time. Seriously? How minimal of effort could I expect?
That is NOT something to get pumped about!
Now… “My name is Mandie and I get respect, to be treated like a dear friend and loved one is what I expect.”
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How is any of this information useful to you?
My request is that if you’re in a relationship, you take a look at your standards.
Is your partner treating you like a dear friend and loved one? Is he/she giving you the same treatment that you give in return?
If you’re single, set your standards before you start looking.
First – are you the ideal partner? Being the person who attracts/is with someone who treats you the way you want to be treated is the first essential step. How can you step up your game?
Second – If you are the epitome of a perfect partner, but your other half is not acting like your better half – still – start by stepping up your game.
THEN communicate with him or her – set your standards and make sure they are fair and fit what you’ve earned.
If it’s not working and this is a dating relationship, it may be time to move on!
If it’s a marriage – it may be time to seek a neutral, unbiased party to help you work things out (marriage counselor).
I share this, because I want the best for you. My whole life is about trying to help people reach the epitome of happy and live their dreams – like me! 😉
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